Proven tips for boosting your sex drive
Some people want sex all the time, but most wish they could increase their libidos. Why is there such a variation in sex drives? Because of brain chemistry. Those with higher sex drives tend to have higher levels of dopamine. Want to boost your libido? Here are seven proven tips for increasing your sex drive:
1. Get in the mood
Reading erotica or watching a sexy movie causes chemical changes to your brain that can increase your sex drive. In fact, merely talking about sex with your partner can help boost your libido. Research shows that couples who discuss their sexual preferences report double satisfying sexual encounters than those who don’t discuss sex.
2. Focus less on orgasms
Rather than worrying about having an orgasm, focus on touching your partner or yourself, and enjoying the sensuality. This can teach your brain and body to learn how to enjoy sex again.
3. Manage your medications
Some antidepressants, such as Prozac, Paxil, and Zoloft, may increase serotonin in the brain while decreasing dopamine, lowering your sex drive. Hormones in the pill can also affect your libido. Talk to your doctor about how the medications you’re on could be zapping your sex drive.
4. Nourish your body
To feel your best, you need seven-to-nine hours of sleep every night, regular exercise, and healthy food. Focus on eating a diet that rich in healthy fats and based on whole foods, while cutting out refined carbs, trans fats, and sugar. Exercising regularly also releases mood-enhancing endorphins that will jump-start your sex drive.
5. Connect with your partner
The most natural and effective way to increase a woman’s sex drive is to foster a close connection with your partner, both emotionally and physically. Having excellent communication with your partner is the best foreplay you can have.
Stress can lower your sex drive. Take the time to de-stress and indulge in some self-care regularly. This could mean going for a massage, hiking, or watching your favorite comedy shows before bed.
7. See a sex therapist
If you’re still having trouble with your libido despite making lifestyle changes, then it might be worth it to consult with a sex therapist. They can help you figure out how to increase your sex drive and how to love sex again.
Rev it up
When it comes to increasing your sex drive, you should ensure that you’re taking care of yourself both emotionally and physically. Sometimes a lower sex drive can be due to psychological issues, hormonal imbalances, or physical health problems. Be sure to consult with your doctor to rule out any underlying medical concerns.
- “All The Best Ways to Increase Your Libido,” Women’s Health, June 25, 2018.
- “How to Increase Your Sex Drive,” Self, September 18, 2010.