Best Makup Sex After Fighting
Most couples say the best part of arguing is the passionate make-up sex after. Here are seven tips for hookin' up after blowin’ up
1. Treat disagreements as verbal foreplay
Most couples are sexually aroused by disagreements. In fact, anger produces adrenaline, which creates a response similar to sexual arousal. Instead of sending a small disagreement into a full-blown fight, hold back harsh words or accusations and avoid any cruelty. Just let your hormones take control.
2. Cut the tension with laughter
Even small disagreements with your partner can drain you. But humor can be healing, and laughter and forgiveness in and of themselves can be highly arousing. Cracking jokes can make both of you realize the ridiculousness of the argument you’re having. The two of you will loosen up and move to gearing up for a night of passion.
3. Keep your last word short
You may feel the need to make an angry closing statement before you can move on from fighting to sexier activity. If this is the case, make your statement brief and engage your partner with eye contact as you express your feelings. Use a suggestive tone of voice: It’ll help lighten the mood. Undress your man with your eyes; this will help to engage him more. Then begin undressing — literally. You’ll love the sense of empowerment you’ll feel, and he’ll love the seduction.
4. Establish a truce with a make-up ritual
This doesn’t necessarily have to involve sex; the two of you can shower together or give each other massages. Sometimes men will give their partners a glass of wine or gift them flowers. Women might fix a bowl of ice
5. Take a breather
Most women when they’re upset
6. Try virtuoso sex
Sometimes there’s some emotional distance with makeup sex because the two of you may be holding onto residual anger. However, you can use this as an opportunity to really engage in the best bed performance of your life. This will give your partner an idea of what he’ll miss out on if he makes you mad. Engage in some inventive, adventurous foreplay to really knock him out and make him appreciate you even more.
7. Inspire worship
Sometimes women view makeup sex as a chore that only works to please their partner. But you can turn this around by indulging sexual fantasies. Use makeup sex as an opportunity to make him your love slave.
Here’s what women say are the best things about steamy makeup sex after an argument:
- The sense of deepened connection to a partner after having survived an argument
- The knowledge that energy aroused by anger is being channeled in a healthy way
- The increased attentiveness
shownin the bedroom by partners who feel bad for their jerkiness
- The sex after the fight becomes more memorable than the fight itself
- The sense of moving on that makeup sex brings to a fight
- The chance to act more aggressively in the bedroom without any judgments
Coming together after a tense fight
All couples fight. But it’s what follows a fight that matters most. If you and your partner can settle differences, your relationship can grow and strengthen.
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