Hitting it off with a new guy doesn’t necessarily mean he’s looking for long-term love."If he doesn't want to 'take it to the next level' that just means 'I like having sex with you but I never, ever want to hear about your day,'" Cosmopolitan notes. Here are seven ways you can tell whether he wants you for a girlfriend or just a good time.
1. He only appreciates your physical appearance
Sure, it’s awesome to receive compliments about your face and body. But if you’re looking for a relationship, then you also want your new guy to appreciate your personality and other inner qualities. Men who view you as relationship material will go beyond just complimenting you on your appearance; they’ll also compliment your intelligence, sense of humor, and creativity. Steer clear of men who just tell you that you have a great rear. That’s a definite red flag.
2. Most of his talks and texts soon turn to the subject of sex
Does your new guy always find a way to bring up sex no matter what you’re discussing? This is another big sign that he’s only looking for booty calls. When a man is interested in a relationship, he’ll be able to have frank conversations with you, and he won’t feel the need to sexualize them.
3. He doesn’t take you out on proper dates
A man who is interested in a relationship will invite you to do things with him. But if he’s only interested in some action, he'll suggest that you two "Netflix and chill." What’s more, it’s like you’re an after-thought when he calls or texts. This is because he doesn’t feel the need to invest time and energy in going the extra mile. He’s just looking for convenience and a quick fix.
4. He gets mad if you’re not in the mood
A man who is interested in a relationship wants to spend time with you regardless of whether it involves sex. A man who is just looking to hop in bed, on the other hand, will get upset if you don’t want to get physical with him. And he’ll likely try to guilt-trip you into changing your mind.
5. There’s nothing to talk about with him
When a relationship is forming, a man is usually excited to learn more about you as a person. But when a man is just using you for sex, there’s nothing to discuss. He doesn’t want to chitchat or ask your opinion on stuff. All he wants to do is lead you to the bedroom.
6. He doesn’t care about your pleasure
A man who is just looking for sex will skip or foreshorten foreplay, and he won’t care whether you climax. You’re simply a means to an end for him. "Not all men need the foreplay many women do to warm up," Women's Day observes, "so with a guy who doesn't care about your needs 'it's just a wham-bam kind of thing.'" A man who is interested in a relationship will take his time.
7. He doesn’t spend the night
A man who wants a relationship will stay over after sex, cuddling and talking with you. To him, sleeping over helps him to develop a warm, close connection with you. "If he always rolls out of bed and heads back to his own place," Glamour notes, "it could be a sign of potential intimacy issues." And, of course, a man who is only DTF breaks for the door as a soon as he can.
Know where you stand
It’s pretty easy to tell the difference between a man who wants sex and one who’s looking for something more. The man who simply wants sex won’t put in much effort when it comes to getting to know you or trying to impress you.
But the man who’s looking for a relationship will want to be around you all the time, and will actually take the time to get to know you.