The first thing on your mind after giving birth probably isn't sex. But if this is your first child, then you'll probably start to wonder about the logistics of sex after giving birth. Here's everything you need to know about rebooting your sex life post-pregnancy.

How long should you waitHow long should you wait?

Did you have a vaginal birth? Almost immediately after giving birth, your vagina will begin to restore itself to its pre-pregnancy glory days. Vaginas are incredibly resilient. Even if you experience a tear or two, they generally heal within a few weeks. But most doctors will tell you to wait at least six weeks after giving birth to have penetrative sex.

A lot of women are hesitant to have sex again after giving birth. Many falsely believe that their vaginas will never go back to their normal size. But the vagina is designed to do just that. The muscles don't stay flaccid and stretched -- they become tight and taunt again over time.

Before attempting full-on intercourse after having a baby, you might want to warm up with milder sexual activities. Always start slow and ease into it. Try some gentle touch and massage to help you become more ready for sexual intercourse.

How will sex feelHow will sex feel?

The first time you have sex after giving birth, it might not feel good to you. But that's okay. Some women describe having sex for the first time after birth similar to when they lost their virginity. That being said, over the course of weeks, sex should become more comfortable and enjoyable. Make sure to use plenty of personal lubricant to help ease pain and discomfort.

Which sex positions should you tryWhich sex positions should you try?

While every woman is different, experts recommend starting with these five different sex positions:

  • Reverse cowgirl. Start on top of your partner. You'll be able to control the depth and rhythm plus this position stimulates your clitoris for an instant orgasm.
  • The flip. If you don't like being on top, then try lying flat on your stomach. Your partner can enter you from the rear, allowing you to relax into penetration without your partner going too deep.
  • Spooning. This side-by-side position helps prevent your partner from going too deep or too hard.
  • Modified missionary. Lay in an "L" shape on your back and have your partner position himself on his side. This position enables you to access your clitoris with minimal exertion.
  • Cunnilingus. Lay back and have your partner perform oral sex on you. This way, you don't have to worry about penetration.

Will sex be the sameWill sex be the same?

Probably not. You might discover that what feels good during sex changes after you give birth. Before having a baby, you might've enjoyed g-spot stimulate, but now you might prefer clitoral orgasms. It's definitely possible to have a fantastic sex life after having kids, but it might require some creativity.

Just acknowledge that sex is going to be different. Communication with your partner is also essential to ensuring your sex life is pleasurable. Don't be afraid to try out different positions until you find what works best for you.

Spice it upSpice it up

The bottom line is that you can still have an amazing sex life. But you'll need to wait at least six weeks after giving birth before you can safely attempt penetrative intercourse. Remember to take things slow and try out new sex positions to discover what works best for you. And rest assured that your vagina will return to normal over time!

References
  1. "8 Surprising Truths About Sex After Baby," Parent, n.d.
  2. "The 5 Best Sex Positions for After You Have a Baby," Women's Health, December 7, 2017.
  3. "When Can You Have Sex After Having a Baby," Glamour, December 17, 2018.

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