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How To Know If A Guy Wants To Break Up

The world of dating can be super confusing and hurtful -- one minute you're having a great time with a guy you've been seeing for a month or two, and the next minute he dumps you out of the blue. While being dumped without no warning is never fun, here are ten signs he's about to dump you, and what to do about it:

Something doesn't feel right

1. Something doesn't feel right

Sometimes you just have to trust your gut -- if something doesn't feel right, then chances are it isn't. This is usually a sign that the guy you're dating isn't happy with how things are going. The best thing you can try to do to salvage the relationship is to talk it out. But if your guy isn't willing to open up his feelings, then you might have to prepare for the worst.

You're last on his list

2. You're last on his list

When a guy is committed to you, you'll always be one of his top priorities. You'll notice that he is willing to make compromises and sacrifices for you. But when a guy is planning on dumping you, he typically starts to pull away. You might notice that you're just an afterthought, and he's not putting in the effort to keep the momentum of the relationship going.

He stops communicating

3. He stops communicating

If you suddenly notice that it takes forever for the guy you're dating to respond to texts and phone calls, then that's a surefire sign he's ready to call it quits. This is especially true if he was texting you like mad earlier on in the relationship.

You argue more

4. You argue more

As he grows more distant from you, you might notice that the two of you argue more often without reaching any sort of compromise like in the past. This could be bickering to full-blown fighting. Either way, all of this spells one thing: the relationship is doomed.

He gets annoyed easily

5. He gets annoyed easily

When you first started dating, did you notice that your guy was easy-going? But now he seems to get annoyed at the slightest thing you say? This is a sign that he is no longer digging you or your personality, and that he's probably going to break up with you soon.

He stops complimenting you

6. He stops complimenting you

Are you used to your guy always complimenting you? Have you noticed all those compliments abruptly stop? Instead, do you feel like he is now constantly criticizing you? Then that's definitely a sign the relationship is going to end soon.

He stops spending time with you

7. He stops spending time with you

Remember when the two of you used to be glued at the hip? But now he can barely fit you into his busy schedule? When he chooses to spend time with his friends rather than with you, that's a huge sign he's about to dump you.

Your sex life is nonexistent

8. Your sex life is nonexistent

Did you use to have sex frequently? But now he never wants to initiate it? That is a huge indication that the passion is gone between you two. While sometimes men become depressed or go through other difficulties that affect their sex drives, it could also be a sign that he's ready to move on. Try talking to him to see what is going on.

He's no longer affectionate

9. He's no longer affectionate

Guys are always affectionate to women they're attracted to. But if you notice he's stopped being affectionate toward you, then something is definitely up. Do you feel like you have to force it? It could be a sign that he's unhappy being with you, and he'll probably dump you soon.

You're suddenly putting in all the effort

10. You're suddenly putting in all the effort

Do you now have to be the first one to initiate contact? Invite him to events? Ask him out on dates? You might also notice that your guy is emotionally distant and supercritical of you. These things indicate he has completely withdrawn from the relationship, and he is planning on breaking up with you.

Is he worth it?

If you notice the guy you're dating is sending you signals that he wants to end things with you soon, you have to ask yourself: is he worth trying to save the relationship? You can try confronting him about his behavior, but if he's unwilling to have an honest conversation with you about your compatibility and the direction of the relationship, then you should probably let him go. You deserve to date a guy who is super into you, committed and puts you first. Remember there's plenty of other fish in the sea.

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