What to look out for on Tinder
You’ve definitely heard of Tinder — it’s one of the most popular free mobile-based dating apps around. Why? Because of its usability. Tinder is location-based, and all users have to do is swipe right if they like another user’s profile or swipe left if they don’t. If both users swipe right on each other, then it’s considered a match.
The pros and cons of Tinder
Though Tinder has a reputation for being the ultimate “hookup” app, many users have found meaningful relationships through it. Some of the pros of using Tinder include:
It’s easy to use
You just download the app to your phone and create an account in seconds using your Facebook profile.
It shows your connections
You’re able to see if you and a potential match have mutual friends in common, since Tinder is linked to your Facebook account.
You don’t have to fill out any questionnaires
All you have to do is choose pictures from your Facebook profile and write a brief summary about yourself.
Tinder does have some downsides, such as:
The app is mostly based on photos
You don’t know a whole lot about potential matches.
You’ll receive tons of requests
A lot of people use Tinder for casual sex, so don’t be surprised by more straightforward messages.
It’s mainly designed for casual dating
That doesn’t mean you won’t find someone who’s interested in a long-term relationship, but you may have to clarify that you’re looking for something serious.
People just visiting your city will appear in your search.
What to watch out for
Despite the drawbacks of Tinder, most can meet their ideal match as long as they are aware of common strategies people use to grab their attention. Here are five Tinder tricks everyone should watch out for:
1. You notice their Tinder profile is lacking in substance
A lot of users will try to grab your attention on Tinder by keeping their profile short. They think that, by avoiding lengthy narratives, you’ll find them to be more mysterious.
2. They mention flaws in their profile
People try to reel others in by mentioning some of their flaws upfront. Why? Because they think that’ll make them sound humorous or self-deprecating. They also believe that, by revealing their flaws, you’ll find them more endearing and trustworthy.
3. Their profile ends with a way for you to strike up a conversation
Some users want as many people as possible to message them. They will often mention things to ask them about in their profile, giving you an easy in. For example, someone might say, “One time I almost died skydiving — you should ask me about that.”
4. They message you at specific times
Dating experts agree that the best times to message someone on Tinder is during the week in the evening and on the weekends beginning in the afternoon. Don’t be surprised if your inbox fills up during these times. Someone may try to schedule dates on Sunday afternoons because they think you don’t feel as busy, so you are more likely to say yes to meeting up.
5. They pressure you to meet up right away
Some people on Tinder realize that users probably receive hundreds of messages a week. They are eager to meet you as soon as possible because they are afraid you’ll agree to go on dates with someone else. Don’t be surprised if a lot of your matches pressure you to meet in person after only messaging for a day or two.
It’s all about the numbers…
When it comes to online dating, Tinder is a numbers game. This means users will swipe right on a lot of people and send out mass messages until they get a few replies. But you can increase your chances of finding a lasting relationship by following these simple tips:
Choose your pictures wisely
Since Tinder is mainly photo-based, you should pick photos that accurately represent who you actually are. You should avoid using filters on your photos, and you should also upload a few pictures of yourself without makeup.
Use your profile to showcase stories that illustrate your positive qualities. For instance, if you have a good sense of humor, tell a story about something funny that recently happened to you.
Ask a potential match about their passions
Once you start talking to a guy on Tinder, you should find out what he’s passionate about. This is a great way to gauge if you’re compatible.
Message them first
If someone piques your interest, don’t wait for them to message you. They may have liked your profile but been too shy to make the first move.
Swipe Right to Love
Finding long-term relationship material on Tinder can be challenging. But if you’re aware of the tricks some people try to pull to land dates on there, then you can weed the bad ones out. Remember that you should get to know a potential match super well before agreeing to go on a first date. Follow the above tips, and you’ll be well on your way to finding the right person.
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