No text after the first date?

You went on a date with someone from Tinder, and you thought that you hit it off with them. But days go by, and they don't text you. Does this sound all too familiar? Unfortunately, it's more common than you think. Dating can be super confusing and frustrating, especially when someone ends up ghosting you. Need some help demystifying dating? Here are seven reasons why they didn't text you after the first date:

He thinks you don't like him

1. They think you don't like them

Believe it or not, but a lot of people are just shy, and they are afraid of being rejected. Your date might have gotten the impression that you don't like them. If they assume you aren't interested, they won't text you to set up a second date. Ultimately, you might have to reach out if you want to see them again.

He's not ready for commitment

2. They're not ready for commitment

If the person you went on a date with said they just got out of a relationship, they might not be ready to date again. Sometimes people go on dates just to distract themselves, even though they have no intention of pursuing anything serious with anyone. But it's better they realize this now than to continue leading you on.

He's dating multiple women at once

3. They're dating multiple people at once

You're probably not the only person they're seeing. Many daters like to casually see several people at a time before deciding which one to seriously pursue. They might not have texted you back because they're dating too many people or they've found someone they think is a better match.

The date actually didn't go all that well

4. The date actually didn't go all that well

You might think your first date went super well, but there's a good chance that they didn't experience it the same way as you. Did they seem interested in you during the date? Were they engaged in conversation? Or were they staring at their phone the whole time? These could be some clues as to why they never texted you after the first date.

He's just not that into you

5. They're just not that into you

If the person you went on a date with doesn't make the first move within 24 to 48 hours after the first date, they're probably just not that into you. Maybe your personalities didn't click, or there wasn't a strong romantic connection. It happens, and that's the whole point of dating  to see if there's a future together.

He's too nervous

6. They're too nervous

Sometimes people just don't know how to make the first move when it comes to asking someone out on a second date. They might also feel pressured to ask you out again, and they're freezing up because of it. While they might still want to pursue things with you, they also might just be too nervous.

He's playing games

7. They're playing games

People do this all the time  even if they enjoyed themselves on a first date, they'll wait 24 to 72 hours before texting you again. A lot of people don't want to come off as too desperate or clingy, so they like to play it cool early on during the first few dates.

Just move on

There could be tons of different reasons why the person you went on a great first date with never texted to ask you on a second date. But if you really enjoyed your time with them, feel free to text and ask them on a second date. The worst that could happen is they ignore you or say no. If that happens, just move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

  1. "9 Reasons Why He Hasn't Called You Back After Your First Date," Narcity, n.d.
  2. "10 Reasons He Never Called After The First Date," StyleCaster, n.d.
  3. "Ask a Guy: Why do Guys Vanish After a Great First Date?," a new mode, n.d.


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