Is It Normal to Feel Scared About Getting Married?

How to calm wedding nerves

Yes, planning a wedding is stressful. And it can easily cause you to feel overwhelmed. You’re also making a huge commitment to someone, so it’s natural to get a little freaked out. But pre-wedding nerves are super common and natural. Here’s how to calm them so you can actually relax and enjoy your wedding.

Everyone has second thoughts

You’re not the only bride or groom who feels overwhelmed. Wedding planning can make anyone feel anxious — even anxious enough to have second thoughts about getting married. Rather than canceling your wedding, you should confide in other people in your friend circle who’ve gotten married recently and rely on them as a support system. Or turn to your best friend who can act as a sounding board for your thoughts and feelings and serve as the voice of reason.

Part of pre-wedding jitters is feeling irritable. Maybe things that didn’t bother you before bother you now. But this feeling is mostly caused by stress and anxiety. You can put things into perspective and feel more positive, however, by talking to your fiancé about the upcoming wedding and expressing any concerns you have.

Because getting married is a life-changing commitment, you might find that you have difficulties eating or sleeping along with experiencing second thoughts. This is natural, too. You should reach out to close friends or even find a therapist to help you overcome this hurdle. Remember, all these things are just temporary.

Keep calm and carry on

In addition to working with a therapist or confiding in friends to help cope with pre-wedding jitters, you can also employ the following wellness techniques:

Restorative yoga. Engage in restorative yoga consistently to help calm your nerves. Yoga poses should be focused on deep breaths to soothe your mind. You’ll find that you’re more connected with your body and mind.
Breathing exercises. Breathing exercises can help change your internal state within a matter of a few minutes. Why? Because they calm the nervous system. Try taking ten deep, slow breathes at a time, focusing your attention on the present moment.
Drink anti-inflammatory beverages. Anti-inflammatory drinks, such as turmeric lattes, can help reduce your anxiety. Magnesium vitamin B complex supplements also do the trick. You’ll notice you’re calmer and able to deal with daily stressors more effectively.
Meditation. Meditation has been proven to reduce anxiety and depression when practiced daily. There are two different types of meditation people use — concentration meditation and mindfulness meditation. Both are effective in helping you to feel calmer.

It’s important to also minimize any other stressors in your life to reduce your stress and anxiety. What’s more, don’t be afraid to ask for help if you feel overwhelmed.

Don’t overthink it

Remember that pre-wedding jitters are totally natural. Everyone experiences them. But, to overcome pre-wedding nerves, it’s essential that you draw on your support system, whether it be natural supports, such as friends and family, or more formal supports, such as a therapist. You can also incorporate wellness techniques into your daily life to ease your anxiety and stress, such as yoga or meditation. Pre-wedding jitters are temporary, too — once you’ve tied the knot, you’ll feel so much more relaxed!

references

“6 Easy Ways to Deal with Wedding Jitters,” Huffington Post, March 25, 2015.
“4 Wellness Techniques That Calm Pre-Wedding Jitters,” Brides, January 11, 2018.
“Calming Pre-Wedding jitters,” Psychology Today, March 21, 2018.