Dating Red Flags Every Woman Should Know

Dating can be exciting as you're first getting to know someone. But it's easy to make excuses for a guy's behavior in the early stages, especially if you really like him. Word to the wise -- don't. Here are 10 dating red flags every woman should watch out for:

Flag #1 - He moves too fast

Some men will push for a commitment right after they've started dating you. This is a huge red flag -- when men push for commitment prematurely, it signals not only that they're insecure, but that they also have low emotional intelligence. Essentially, insecure men are trying to "lock you down" before you begin to notice their flaws.

Flag #2 - He's controlling

If you notice that the guy you're dating takes the lead on everything, this means he's controlling. For instance, a controlling dude might feel the need to plan out every date without asking your input or tell you what and how much to eat. If you notice these tendencies, you should run away fast.

Flag #3 - He's bad at sex

Nothing is worse than bad sex, and it can signal that you're not physically compatible with one another. Worse yet, if your guy is unwilling to talk about problems in the bedroom, then your sex life together is doomed to fail.

Flag #4 - He plays games with you

If you notice you're dating a guy who runs hot and cold, then chances are, he's playing mind games. Oftentimes men who play mind games will be attentive one minute, then ignore your texts the next. You should only date a guy who's genuinely interested in spending time with you, and who is consistently responsive.

Flag #5 - He doesn't initiate dates

Does the dude you're dating always wait for you to invite him to something? This is a red flag signaling he's just not that into you. If you're the one who always initiates contact and plans dates, then you probably like him more than he likes you. You should date a guy who initiates contact and invites you to do stuff.

Flag #6 - He lacks ambition

If the guy you're dating doesn't have his shit together, this is definitely a tell-tale sign you should end things. It's one thing if he's encountered some setbacks in life, and he's working hard towards a career goal, but it's another thing if he lacks ambition altogether. If both of you are in different places in life and have different attitudes toward success, then it's not going to work out.

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Flag #7 - He's selfish

Do you notice that your date only talks about himself or only wants to do things that he finds interesting? This is a huge sign of selfishness. Ideally, someone you're dating should express interest in things that interest you and should want to get to know you better. Ditch him for someone who actually cares about you.

Flag #8 - He hasn't introduced you to friends and family

If you've been dating a dude for several months, according to Glamour, he "will naturally incorporate you into his life more and more. If six months go by and you haven't met a soul, there may be a reason -- and you deserve to know it."

Flag #9 - He's rude to you

Does your guy sometimes make off-handed comments about your appearance or interests? Is he sarcastic? Does he tease you often, even when you've asked him not to? If your man is flat out rude to you and your friends, then you should ditch him pronto. This is a sign that he's trying to lower your self-esteem, and it's unhealthy.

Flag #10 - He's always too busy

Whenever you make plans with your date, do you notice that he often says he's too busy to hang out? This clearly means that you're not a priority in his life, and you should end things right away. If he can't make time for you, then you shouldn't make time for him.

You deserve better in a relationship

While dating can be tough, don't ever settle for less. If you notice any red flags early on, ditch your dude for good. This will free you up so you can find a better catch who truly respects you and appreciates you for who you are.


1. "11 Dating Don'ts You Should Never Accept from Your Guy," Glamour, n.d.
2. "10 Red Flags no Grown-Ass Woman Should Ignore When She Starts Dating Someone New," Bustle, June 4, 2015.
3. "16 Red Flags Men and Women Ignored Until it was too Late," Huffington Post, December 4, 2014.
4. "24 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore," Self, December 31, 2015.
5. "The Red Flags to Look out for When You Start Dating Someone," Life Hacker, February 11, 2016.

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