Sometimes feeling sexy can be challenging. Because embracing your sexuality puts you in a vulnerable position that opens you up to rejection, it's understandable why many women are tame in the bedroom. Be brave and make the leap from tame girl to sex goddess. Here are nine secrets to boosting your confidence in the bedroom:

1. Splurge on sexy lingerie

1. Splurge on sexy lingerie

You're probably used to sporting a bra and undies, but when it comes to regaining sexual confidence, you should kick it up a notch. Invest in some sexy lingerie so that you can play the part of a seductress during sex.

2. Dim the lights

2. Dim the lights

Both men and women prefer to dim the lights during sex. Why? Because it casts a soft, flattering shadow and sets a romantic, sexual tone instantly. Dimming the lights will put you more in the mood for sex and increase your confidence.

3. Strip off your clothes

3. Strip off your clothes

Slowly strip off your clothes in front of your partner. Focus on each item of clothing, and removing it in a slow, sensual way. Maintain eye contact with your partner as you show hints of skin. This slow striptease will make you feel utterly irresistible and in control.

4. Take charge

4. Take charge

Most men love it when women take charge in the bedroom. Channel your inner dominatrix to get a little bossy in bed. Tell your partner exactly what you are going to do to him. He'll feel incredibly desirable, and you'll gain a much-needed confidence boost.

5. Accessorize

5. Accessorize

Walk around in front of your partner in your favorite red heels. Or strip down to just your jewelry. You'll find that there's something super hot about keeping only one or two things on during sex.

6. Put on music

6. Put on music

Is there a particular song that makes you feel super sexy and good about yourself? It doesn't have to be slow and romantic. If so, play it either before or during sex. And if you have more than one song that oozes sensuality, create a sexy playlist. You'll feel more uninhibited.

7. Spray on perfume

7. Spray on perfume

Right before sex, spray on your favorite perfume that makes you feel sexy. Not only will it help set the mood, but you'll feel more confident overall.

8. Roleplay

8. Roleplay

Playing an unfamiliar character during sex can help increase your confidence. Take on an entirely new persona whose sexiness you want to emulate. This will help mask any insecurities you may have.

9. Talk dirty

9. Talk dirty

Talking dirty in bed not only helps set the mood, but it can intensify sex. Imagine you're a porn star and unleash every single naughty thought you have. You'll feel super powerful, and your partner will be in sheer awe.

Become that wanton sex goddess

If you want to increase your confidence in the bedroom, don't be afraid to take some risks and try out new things with your partner. Also, remember that building your sexual confidence doesn't even have to take place in the bedroom. For instance, regularly hitting up the gym can make you feel good about yourself.

References
  1. "10 Ways to Feel Sexier in the Bedroom," Good Housekeeping, July 31, 2014.
  2. "10 Ways to Be Confident, Ballsy, and Sexy as Hell in Bed," Women's Health, June 26, 2014.

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