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How to get swiped right in a hurry
1. Be accurate
You should erase any photos that are over two years old from your profile, and you definitely don’t want to lie about your weight, height, age, and lifestyle preferences. The more photos, the better. In fact, Business Insider recommends that you upload as many photos as a dating website permits.
Also, you should vary your poses
2. Make your profile stand out
Rather than writing vague, generalized descriptions, you should be as specific as possible in terms of what you’re looking for in a potential mate. Discuss your favorite hobbies and interests in-depth, and consider telling an interesting story or two about yourself. “It’s your chance to be funny and quirky, whether it’s through emojis, riddles, or poems,” Bustle.com notes. The more authentic and in-depth you can be, the higher your chances are of finding someone you truly jibe with.
What’s more, you should list
3. Avoid clichés
Profile clichés such as romantic walks on the beach, drama-free relationships, and financial security are red flags to those browsing your profile. As Mashable notes, “it’s exhausting to scroll through the same misspelled clichés attached to the same distorted selfies.” Instead, think of interesting things that could be used as conversation starters.
Along the same lines, avoid emoticons in your messages to people, as it could send the wrong message. The only
4. Update your profile regularly
“Make the effort to renew your profile on a regular basis with relevant information about yourself,” Marie Claire advises. An outdated profile can give the wrong impression of where you’re at in life. It’s important to update any major life events or changes, such as completing a degree, landing a new job, or going off to Europe for a few months traveling. A good rule of thumb is to review your profile every two to three months to see if any areas need updating.
Another helpful tip to updating your profile is to ask a trusted friend of the opposite gender to give you feedback, specifically if your profile truly reflects who you are as a person and if you seem dateable.
5. Respond in a timely manner to messages
If someone who has caught your eye is writing to you, you’ll want to respond promptly. Why? Because they are probably writing to other people as well. What does in a timely manner mean? It means responding to messages within a day or two, but no more than three days. If you take too long to respond, then the other person will assume you’re not interested. If you reply too quickly, though, it might signal to the other person that you’re desperate.
Once you begin talking to a person you’re interested in, arrange a date as soon as possible so they don’t pass you up for another person. Be sure to keep your messages brief but interesting and friendly.
Autocorrect can certainly be your worst enemy. To avoid any embarrassing blunders, be sure to use spelling and grammar check for your profile and emails. If you know how to use correct spelling and grammar, you’ll truly stand out from the crowd. In fact, it’s astonishing how many people send out poorly written messages that are riddled with half-finished words and spelling mistakes.
Unless you want to look like a clown, avoid text speak at all
7. Log on every day, no matter what
Even if you don’t have any new messages, by logging in daily you’re signaling to others that you’re an active member on that dating website. Plus many online dating websites will display your profile first in search results if you log in daily.
Better yet, keep your profile constantly logged in on your
8. Use an upbeat tone
No one wants a Debbie Downer. Likewise, steer clear of sarcasm; it can be taken as rudeness. When in doubt about anything that you’ve written, don’t post it.
What’s more, you want to always be positive about yourself, which means highlighting your strengths and the things you’re most passionate about in life. When writing messages, the same thing goes: At first you’ll want to avoid any type of negative criticism, especially when discussing past relationships.
9. Avoid physical compliments when first contacting someone
If you really want to capture someone’s attention, then demonstrate that you’ve actually read their profile and can relate to them on some level. In your message, highlight similarities and always ask a few questions. For example, “I notice you love cooking Italian food as well. What’s your favorite dish to make? I love cooking fettuccine
Some additional dating profile pro tips
- Avoid posting any group photos; the extra folks
makesit hard to identify you
- Always include one photo of your body and one of your face
- Use photos you’ve taken
yourself,because research indicates that they are highly effective in attracting potential partners
- Choose photos where you’re smiling and looking directly into the camera so you’ll seem approachable and friendly
- Avoid posting pictures that are blurry or poorly lit